One of the most important skills we need to develop in order to be happy is how to ask for what we want. Yet most of us never learn.
Others think they’ll lose the things that are important to them – friendships, relationships, job etc.
“Smile. Your smile lights up a room.” It was more than 20 years ago and I had been going through a difficult time. The stress was starting to show on my face. One of my mentors took me aside and she said: ” Smile, your smile could charm a ratbat!”
There’s a saying I grew up with as a child: “Ungrateful worse than obeah.”
It means that living in a state of ingratitude for life, your situation, your circumstances is going to keep you locked into your difficulties…
Addressing conflict can be challenging for many of us. Many times we either ‘fight’ or ‘fly’ depending on how we were raised and how we saw our families of origin deal with issues. ‘Fighting’ and ‘flying’ both lead to alienation and these are aggressive and passive responses respectively.
Did you realize that the Disneylands and Disneyworlds are filled with adults because these are the few places we give ourselves permission to play as adults?
I often meet people who ask my advice on this very question. It’s a very challenging issue for those of us who were taught that our role is to cater to everyone else’s needs, never speak up for our rights and always say yes to whatever you’re asked to do.
Ever heard the saying: “You teach people how to treat you”? It’s true. It’s evident by what you’re willing or not willing to tolerate in your relationships… Many years ago I became friends with a wonderful lady who was like a mother to me. She was very kind and loving to everyone so I couldn’t …
Have you been on an airplane and heard the flight attendant say: “Put on your oxygen mask first”? Did you think about what it really means or did you immediately dismiss it thinking: “I can’t do that”? What does it really mean to put on your oxygen mask first? If you don’t do it you …
I was having a conversation with one of my sons recently. And it took me back to a memory of myself in high school. I was reminded of how much my self-esteem was tied to my academic achievements. I was somewhat uncoordinated so I didn’t do well at sports but I had a sense from …